Women ask about

How do I know if I orgasm?

Woman's orgasm is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension resulting in rhythmic muscular contractions at the same time producing intense pleasurable sensations followed by rapid relaxation. It typically lasts for several seconds. Orgasm is also in part a psychological experience of pleasure and clearly focused mind on the personal experience. Reaching orgasm is often called climaxing, coming or cumming.

Orgasms vary from time to time and from person to person. Although orgasm is often described as something explosive and amazing, making women to scream and moan, in most cases orgasms are mild, subtle, and less intense, but don't get me wrong, it does feel great. The differences in intensity of orgasms can be attributed to physical factors, such as fatigue and length of time since last orgasm, as well as to a wide range of psychosocial factors.

The most characteristic physical feature of orgasm is the sensation produced by the simultaneous rhythmic contractions of the pubococcygeus muscle (pc muscle). Along with contractions of the anal sphincter, rectum and perineum, the uterus and outer third of the vagina (the orgasmic platform) for women. The first few contractions are relatively intense and close together, occurring at slightly less than 1-second intervals. As orgasm continues, the contractions diminish in intensity and duration and occur at less frequent intervals. If a man inserts and keeps two fingers in her vagina while she climaxes, he can clearly feel the contractions around the fingers during her orgasm.

Female orgasm can be described as beginning with a sense of suspension, quickly followed by a pleasurable feeling that usually begins at the clitoris (the upper part of a woman's pussy) and spreads out to the close body area. One more sign of orgasm is clitoris, if you know how to locate it. The clitoris fills with blood and enlarges from sexual stimulation, and after having orgasm the blood resolves. However, if a woman stops receiving sexual stimulation before orgasm, her clitoris remains engorged causing somewhat unpleasant feeling.

The woman's genitals in orgasm are often described as becoming warm, electric or tingly, and these physical sensations usually spread through some portion of the body. Most women can also feel muscle contractions in their vagina or lower pelvis, often described as "pelvic throbbing".

 

Swallowing semen and semen on body. Good, bad, safe?

You might make yourself nauseated if the idea of swallowing semen disgusts you, but you won't get a disease and you won't poison yourself if your partner is disease-free. There is nothing poisonous in semen. If you think about it, semen has to be suited to keeping sperm, which are human cells, alive. It is not going to contain anything that is generally toxic to human cells. It is mostly water, a simple sugar to keep the sperm alive, and protein. The sperm most certainly won't do you any harm because it will be killed by acids in your stomach.

Guys having regular sex actually don't ejaculate very much semen at any one time, maybe a couple of tablespoons at most, and a lot less in the average situation. Semen, however, does contain stuff that makes it a good growth medium, so if you save it up in open containers at room temperature something could grow in it that would disagree with you, pretty much the same way that something disagreeable might grow on a baloney sandwich left over from last week's lunch.

You can get AIDS and other STD from eating his semen. If he is infected with HIV, the AIDS virus will be in his semen. If he has some infection of the urethra (the tube in the penis that passes semen and urine) you are likely to know it, because the skin area of the penis is clean and virtually germ-free for healthy males.

Semen tends to irritate skin for quite many women, so it is advisable to quickly wash it off if you get it on your skin. Semen itself does not any special healing or refreshing qualities, but it's not especially harmful either.

 

How can I make anal sex less painful? Is it safe?

Well as hardy as it sounds the key to painless and even pleasurable anal sex is regular anal sex. It is going to hurt the first time no matter the technique. Of course to keep going on a regular basis, he should be gentle enough not to leave scars in and around her anus. Therefore lots of lubrication and listening to your partner is required. Once she says it is enough, it is enough.

Foreplay is essential. Kiss, stroke, play, and fondle each other just as you always do as a prelude to intercourse. Make sure you are both in the mood for an "anal encounter." Use a condom for safety & hygiene, even if you are a monogamous couple. Use plenty of water-based lubricant. Listen to your partner, pay attention, and be gentle.

Start with very gentle forms of stimulation, such as massage or light penetration with a well-lubricated and well-clipped finger. Softly probe the asshole and pay close attention to your partner's reaction to your touch. Rub the head of your penis (or toy or finger) gently against the asshole. The sensation of a nicely lubed prick at the entrance of the anus is quite pleasurable, and will help to relax the muscles for easier access.

Press forward slowly and gently. You are probably going to feel some resistance at this point, and while you don't want to use force to enter, you will have to push a bit. If your partner is on top, be content to be fairly passive. Allow her to take control of the situation. If you are on top or using a position that allows you more control, it is okay to move in and out, but always be mindful of how your partner is feeling.

Communication is especially important for anal sex. Make your desires known to your partner, no matter what they may be. Be sure that any butt toys you use have a flared base to prevent being "swallowed" too far up into the rectum (thus becoming irretrievable). If something does get stuck, don't panic. Sit down on the toilet and let your body expel the object naturally.

There is no such thing as too much lube. Use one that's water-based and use it liberally for maximum comfort and pleasure. Experiment with positions so you can find out what is most comfortable. The butt actually has two sphincter muscles, one called internal and the other called external. Just beyond these two muscles, the rectum curves slightly. Keep this in mind, because if you don't pay attention, you'll end up jabbing your partner, and this most certainly will be painful. Even under the best of circumstances, not everyone will enjoy anal sex. As with everything, sexually and otherwise, respect your partner's desires and limits.

 

Semen tastes bad. I gag. How to go about swallowing?

The two most common problems reported by women about swallowing is, first, the really unpleasant taste of semen, and, second, being afraid to gag when swallowing. Here are some of the best ideas how to go about swallowing:

* If you are going to swallow, place his penis as far back in your mouth as possible without gagging. Then swallow fast. This will limit the amount of semen that hits your taste buds, and reduce the unpleasant taste.
* Pop a Smint or a strong peppermint or similar mint in your mouth before giving oral sex. This will make your taste buds much less receptive to other tastes.
* Quite many men want women to swallow because they want to receive penis stimulation while ejaculating. If the woman does not swallow, she usually stops stimulating penis as soon as he starts to ejaculate. So what the woman has to do to please her man is to fool him into thinking she is swallowing. Use plenty of saliva and focus your mouth action on the upper part of his penis when you feel he is going to ejaculate, while working with your hand at the base. Make sure your hand is filled with hot, steamy breath. As soon as he starts ejaculating, stop mouth action, but continue your hand action, slide your hand up and down the upper part of the penis shaft as if masturbating him, this will feel divine for him. In most cases, he will not be really able to tell you are not swallowing.

 

How to masturbate?

The most common masturbation method by women is caressing and massaging the clitoris (the upper part of the pussy) with hands and fingers until orgasm. This stimulation is often accompanied by similar caressing, massaging, and touching of other sensitive areas, such as the breasts, the vaginal lips, and the interior of the vagina itself. Move your hand in small circles around your vaginal area and feel whether your sexual arousal is increasing.

Masturbation generally does not have any bad side effects, and women learn their body better through masturbation. Masturbation does not affect size of the vaginal lips, color of the skin of the sexual areas, and the size and position of the genitals. Quite many women cannot have orgasms during sex unless they stimulate themselves manually or get their partner to stimulate them manually. Masturbation is generally a good training for sex, and some women are not orgasmic at all until they have learned to be comfortable with their bodies and to let go through masturbation.

Certain non-sexual objects at home can be used as masturbation toys. Avoid anything that is very hard, brittle, has sharp edges, or is likely to develop sharp edges if broken. Also consider what is inside objects that might work itself out, such as springs and wires. Make sure you won't lose the object inside you. It is a good idea to put the object you use inside latex condom for hygiene and lighter feel.

Objects to consider using include articles of clothing, especially if sexy, like bras, panties, or other lingerie stimulating. Test stockings, socks, handkerchiefs, towels, feathers and brushes. Try food: bananas (if you use peeled off banana it easily breaks, so don't lose it), cucumbers and carrots. Don't use anything sugary to avoid yeast infection. If the object you use is in condom, you can use a lubricant to overcome dry friction.

Women can use anything vibrating. Vibrating electricals are practically always made of plastic, so it is advisable to wrap cloth or leather around it to avoid direct contact with plastic. Use such objects lightly, don't overrush to hurt yourself.

Finally, woman can use dildos as insertee devices. For best results, she should keep the dildo inside vagina fairly steady while masturbating her clitoral area. Penetration is not really necessary for most women to achieve orgasm, but women like the sensation of fullness that a dildo provides. Put on a condom on a dildo when you use it for easier hygiene maintenance.

 

How to be so good to make him come back for more?

Men are attracted to women phychologically and physiologically. The key to getting him spend time and have sex with you is to make him feel confident in himself. It is mostly the question whether you can make him feel the master of sex. Men are very happy and most proud when they can satisfy a woman, and if at the same time he manages to feel good himself he will come back for more, just to show how good he is for you and to himself.

A good sex from the man's perpective includes a bit of everything, a bit of blowjob before the intercourse, a bit of anal sex in addition to the straight intercourse, a bit of moaning from your side and a bit of telling him how good he is.

Even if a man does not tell, he will resent if you stop giving some blowjob from time to time, it is something he would miss and long after, because it is important for him phsychologically. The blowjob sessions don't have to be long if it is tiring you, but a bit of licking and mouth action on his penis before the intercourse would clearly flatter him.

If you want to be remembered as a good lover, you have to be quite active before and in the intercourse, somewhat provocative and inspiring. Treat him as a sex object, as a toy interesting to play with. Remember that passivity is usually not associated with sexuality. Sexy is being live and fresh.

 

How to give him a good handjob?

Quite some men have experiened that women could improve their skill of handling penis. The grip is usually too limp and lacks certainty. Women seem to be afraid to pressure, yet sometimes pull, tug or even scratch at inappropriate moments, disrupting the rhythm.

Men love to have their penis worshipped, played with, tickled, fondled, massaged. Let him know that you are not afraid, ashamed or disgusted. Don't start stroking or pumping it all at once. Take time to watch it grow full, run over with your hand over the head, the shaft and the balls up and down. The hand motion should be swift and smooth, without bumping or stalling.

The most sensitive areas of the penis are the glans and corona (the head and the ring connecting it to shaft). Bring your palm up to the top of the glans and park it there flat out, fingers held together and stiff, thumb pointed straight out. Spin it around as if you were trying desperately to remove the tight lid of a jar. Your man will be groaning in delicious agony. The glans is super sensitive and this motion will bring him exquisite pleasure. He might grimace and cry out, and probably try to push your hand away, but he's loving every second of it.

After you've done this for a while, slip your hand down his testicles and ever-so-gently grab them in your fingers, softly tugging them down away from his shaft. If they are big and bulky, like Grade AA eggs, bounce them up and down a couple of times in your hand. Tell him how heavy they feel, how sexy they are.

Whatever you do, don't squeeze them! This could put a real damper on your lovemaking for the rest of the day. You might notice that one of his nuts hangs lower than the other. This is perfectly normal. Once you feel comfortable with the way his balls feel in your hand, gently roll them up the underside of his shaft. Depending on their size and the amount of room in the scrotum, they will most likely reach to half way of his penis. He will like the way this feels.

Now, let go of his testicles and bring your fingers together in a makeshift goosehead formation. Very lightly, begin to stroke his erection with your fingers, running them all over his sensitive shaft and balls. You may wish to slip the pocket of your goosehead handhold over the tip of his penis, letting it rest there for a few seconds.

About this time, the penis will probably start to emit its natural lubricant. Pre-seminal fluid is nature's way of moistening the canal of the urethra so that the spermatozoa can swim more easily out of it; it also lubricates the head of the penis. An uncircumcised penis gathers up this lubricant within the foreskin and keeps the head very moist and slick. Use the juice to lubricate the shaft. Sometimes, its musky smell can be an aromatic aphrodisiac for you both. If there is little or no pre-cum, don't be concerned. It is not a requirement, and it doesn't always appear at exactly the same time.

Use both hands, alternating back and forth in a pattern you develop to offer him the most arousal. He will notice the difference. Don't get into a routine where the strokes are dull, and noncommittal. Give it to him good, so can tell you are using both of your hands.

Alternatively, you can use the other hand to caress and lightly flutter his balls, or tighten around the base of his shaft. If both hands fit along the length of the shaft, move then together, up and down, in the typical pumping motion. Pretend you're holding a baseball bat and are about to score a grand slam. You can also vary the directions of your hands, one up, one down at the same time. There's no doubt that two hands are better than one.

You can place both of your hands side by side against his shaft like a pair of bookends. Now push hard against his penis. Then lift your hands up and down. Continue in this manner for a while. The constant tugging of the skin around the balls and the mons pubis will do the trick.

For some fun you can try out the following. Place your hands down on either side, your fingers pointing away from the cock. Pretend you're a campfire girl and start spinning his pecker like a stick of wood. This way you'll keep the home fires burning for a long time to come.

Many men love if you use the hand that is currently unemployed to firmly but lovingly pat his inner thighs.

Now a really exquisite technique is the infinite penetration, which is done by rather than just grabbing the penis at the top, let his penis 'penetrate' into your fist on each stroke. Before the head of his penis pops out of your hand, bring the other hand up for the next penetration. This way it seems to him like he is penetrating deeper and deeper into an infinite vagina. Make sure you keep the penetration continuous for best results. Try faster or slower to taste

 

Semen tastes bad. I gag. How to go about swallowing?

The two most common problems reported by women about swallowing is, first, the really unpleasant taste of semen, and, second, being afraid to gag when swallowing. Here are some of the best ideas how to go about swallowing:

* If you are going to swallow, place his penis as far back in your mouth as possible without gagging. Then swallow fast. This will limit the amount of semen that hits your taste buds, and reduce the unpleasant taste.
* Pop a Smint or a strong peppermint or similar mint in your mouth before giving oral sex. This will make your taste buds much less receptive to other tastes.
* Quite many men want women to swallow because they want to receive penis stimulation while ejaculating. If the woman does not swallow, she usually stops stimulating penis as soon as he starts to ejaculate. So what the woman has to do to please her man is to fool him into thinking she is swallowing. Use plenty of saliva and focus your mouth action on the upper part of his penis when you feel he is going to ejaculate, while working with your hand at the base. Make sure your hand is filled with hot, steamy breath. As soon as he starts ejaculating, stop mouth action, but continue your hand action, slide your hand up and down the upper part of the penis shaft as if masturbating him, this will feel divine for him. In most cases, he will not be really able to tell you are not swallowing.

 

I can't reach orgasm. What do I do to orgasm?

Despite the information age and abundance of sex literature, many women continue to experience difficulties reaching orgasm with their partners, because reasons can be many. Following are some of the more common ones.

* I believe by far the number one reason for a woman not being able to reach orgasm is simply insufficient stimulation of her clitoral area in the intercourse, orally or manually. In many cases the cause is also very little arousal before the sex. Men finish way too fast before women manage to heat up. The most easiest way for her to reach orgasm is additional stimulation of her genital (mostly clitoral, the upper part of a woman's pussy where the inner lips meet) area by her partner right after he finishes with mouth and fingers. If he does not want to do that, he needs to learn to hold back his ejaculation to be able to continue, and to choose positions where his underbelly rubs against the woman's clitoral area.
* Women are often too busy in her head -- thinking about how aroused you are or aren't, what your partner thinks of you, whether s/he can keep the movement going, etc. She often thinks too much, instead of focusing on the sensations of what's going on sexually.
* Women may be afraid that she won't orgasm. Some women don't even bother trying and end up completely repressing their sexual response.
* Women can be afraid of seeming demanding by asking too much of her partner (that is, asking to be stimulated the way she likes it, and the way she knows it works). She can be afraid that if her partner concentrates on her pleasure only, she will feel too much pressure to come, leaving her incapacitated sexually.
* Women and her partner are trying too hard to have simultaneous orgasms. Given that they're pretty difficult to do, the trying could certainly get in the way.
* Women rush into sex with the partner. The woman is not leaving herself enough time to get fully aroused and come to climax. Her orgasm ends up getting pushed aside during sex.

If any of these things are true, don't blame yourselves harshly. All men and women have problems with their partners at certain times in their lives.

 

What is the best way to give great head to him?

The best position for him to get most out of blowjob is to lie flat on his back on the bed with his legs slightly spread. Take his cock in your hand firmly. Most men will almost instantly become hard once you take his penis in your hand and look at it with pleasure. Men love it when you say something nice about his penis, say something showing you love it.

The ring where the head joins to the shaft is one of the most sensitive spots and the best place for the stimulation of the penis. To bring your partner to orgasm you will need to direct most of your attention to stimulating this area when giving head.

The penis head itself is very sensitive part for most men, especially uncircumcised men, but its nerve endings are two sensitive and do not bring the pleasure of orgasm for most men, and are easily overstimulated. The shaft on the other hand does not have many nerve endings and, hence, does not provide a man with any high degree of stimulation when caressed either by your hand or mouth. The reason why he likes if she takes his penis deep in her mouth and sucks the shaft (base) of penis, is that the back of her throat actually stimulates the glans, the upper part of his penis. He will not come if you lick the shaft alone. However, don't get me wrong he likes the combined stimulation of the shaft and the glans, it does not mean you should not do it, it's just technically more difficult to perform and many women have quite small mouth, so what I am saying is that concentrating on the place where the head joins the shaft would work for most men, there is no 100% need to deep-swallow it.

I have to mention his balls as well, which are extremely sensitive to pain and whose stimulation is quite often avoided. You can add a nice touch to his pleasure by gently caressing his balls, however, I would suggest to do it before the blowjob by simply gliding your hand over and below his balls just a few times, but at all times avoid squeezing or other hard motions. Most men won't find it very pleasurable if you suck their balls and it's not a very attractive thing to do, so better concentrate on his penis.

The simplest style to please your partner is to take his penis in your mouth, close your lips around his penis and move your head up and down until he climaxes. Avoid teeth at all times. It helps to make him come faster if you add some vocals to your action, most men do love the sound of sucking.

A better style is to stroke the shaft of his penis with your hand while sucking the head and ring of his penis with your mouth. Take his penis in your mouth by sliding your moistened tongue over the head until your lips close around the shaft at the point just behind the ring. Then slide your lips up and down the ring. Enclose his shaft with your hands and make steady pressure. By enclosing his penis with your hand you give him the sensation of having his penis inside vagina. Keep a steady rhythm and apply reasonably strong pressure for faster results. For best results keep the contact with his penis wet and hot. You can take some sips from a glass of water beside you if you start to miss lubricative saliva.

For an excquisite stimulation, focus on the single most sensitive spot, which is the point where the ring of the head and the foreskin are attached, if the man is not circumcised. You can stimulate this point by licking, slight sucking and tapping with your tongue. Many men will love it and come very fast if you stimulate this point. Just be careful not to receive the surprise load in your face when doing this. For the fastest possible orgasm from blowjob, place your lips around the head of his cock and twirl your lips wetly and gently around the ring at the back of the head of his penis. This works simply because it is the most sensitive area on his cock.

Lying between his legs usually works better than approaching his penis from the side. On the other hand if you want to please him by going deep-throat, then you can take more penis if you approach it from top because of the angle it is shaped in. Alternatively you can kneel and suck his penis while he is standing, but it is less relaxing position for him, therefore making it harder for him to concentrate on the orgasm.

Figure motions. An interesting technique is to take his penis in your mouth, but not close your lips around the shaft. From this position you can move your head in motions of various figures. Try circular motion, try the figure of eight, try the alphabet and geometric shapes. Then choose the opposite direction. This kind of play is very sensual for most men, as his penis wonders through different places in your mouth, just don't let the teeth go sharp when performing your play. Differnet men react differently for this kind of continued stimulation, but you have a fair chance of finding your partner cum easily and regarding this technique as especially pleasurable.

A bell tongue. Another interesting technique is to take his penis in your mouth and close the lips. Choose the depth os that you can touch the tip of his penis with the tip of your tongue. Then make small up and down movements and with your head and tease the tip of his penis with your tongue. Some men find this very satisfying.

You can heighten the intensity of his orgasm by delaying his ejaculation by just a brief moment, by blocking the semen ejaculation channel at the very base of his penis by your hand or your thumb. Furthermore continue to stroke his penis ring area with pressure with your hand or your lips as he comes, instead of stopping. This can produce very intense and spasmatic orgasm for him.